The Spaces Between Your Fingers

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Throughout my interview with Sis, she had a smile on her face and talked to me as if we had known each other for years and not only minutes.  She didn’t really know what memory to talk about at first, but after I asked her to tell me about an experience she had that she believes not many people will have, she told me about how she got pregnant at 13.  She told me that her mother took the child and sent Sis away to a relative’s house for 8 years and how this had made her more responsible and mature.

My mom and I never really talked about much.  She never explained things like some parents do.  I always had to figure things out on my own, but that was definitely harder than having someone explain to me what getting my period meant or what having sex and getting pregnant meant.  I never disliked my mom for it though…it was just how things were back then.  But one of the most surprising reactions I got from my mother was the day I found out I was pregnant.  I was thirteen.

I wasn’t in a relationship.  Hell, I didn’t even know what a relationship was.  I just did what the other girls did and ended up pregnant.

After getting sick a couple of times, we made our way to the doctor’s office and after sitting in that uncomfortable seat for a little while, the doctor came in and told my mother I was pregnant.  Just like that; and I didn’t feel a thing.  All I thought was “okay,” because I didn’t even know what the word pregnant meant.  I sat in that seat without feeling confused or angry or scared and just looked at my mother who didn’t speak a word for a little while.  She didn’t yell at me or hit me or do anything I thought she would do.  She didn’t even tell me I had to get an abortion; if she had, I would’ve done it without knowing what in God’s name I was doing because I was only thirteen.

After leaving the doctor’s office my mom looked at me and said “Sis, if you could have anything to eat tonight, what would you have?”

We had dessert that night.    

13 and Pregnant

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1940s
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Throughout my interview with Sis, she had a smile on her face and talked to me as if we had known each other for years and not only minutes. She didn’t really know what memory to talk about at first, but after I asked her to tell me about an experience she had that she believes not many people will have, she told me about how she got pregnant at 13. She told me that her mother took the child and sent Sis away to a relative’s house for 8 years and how this had made her more responsible and mature.

Decade: 1940s
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Recorded by Derya Yilmaz on April 28, 2014
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